Her Memory

Your Domina has working memory. She is not a goldfish, and she is not a diary either. This page explains the line.

What she always remembers

She has these in front of her every message, even on a brand-new chat:

• Your level.
• Your active fetishes and their interest levels.
• Your hard limits.
• Your inventory (toys, clothing, accessories) by name. Your notes on an item are there for her to pull up when she needs them.
• Your long-term goal and your standing rules from the Goal tab.
• Her own personality and current mood.
• Your safe word.
• Your current local date and time.
• The state of your chastity lock, if you connected one.

If any of those are wrong, edit them in the relevant settings screen. Telling her in chat will work for the current session, but the source of truth is the profile.

What she remembers from prior sessions

A session's title, its difficulty and the rating you gave it are not part of what she reads in chat. What a finished session leaves behind is her mood and the reason she gives for it, so a run that went badly colours how she opens the next one. See After the session.

What actually carries the detail forward is the notes she writes for herself while you talk: short lines about you, your preferences, and what happened.

How far back she reaches

Her notes do not expire on their own. Nothing ages out on a timer, and an old note is not dropped because it is old. The one limit is a two-year cap: a note she wrote more than two years ago is cleared, unless you pinned it (see Pinning a note).

What limits her is attention, not storage. For each message the app hands her about a dozen of her notes: the ones closest to what you just said, with a nudge for recent ones. A note she did not get this turn is still there and can come back the moment you touch on the subject again.

You can read what she is holding, delete any of it, and pin what matters most, in the Memory tab of the chat panel. The tab shows the newest of her notes and tells you when there are more than it lists; she can still search all of them on every message.

The tags in the Memory tab

Every note in the Memory tab carries a small tag: the first four letters of its category. PERS is Personal, PREF is Preference, MILE is Milestone and OBSE is Observation.

Tag	Category	Colour	What it covers
PERS	Personal	blue	Facts about your life: your work, your situation, how you were feeling. The most sensitive kind.
PREF	Preference	gold	What you said you like or dislike, and what you responded to.
MILE	Milestone	green	Firsts, streaks, breakthroughs. Things worth bragging about.
OBSE	Observation	grey	Patterns she noticed in how you behave: obedient, hesitant, eager. Also the catch-all when nothing else fits.

They are the same four categories you tick in Expose when you let her quote your notes there.

How she sorts them

She picks the category herself, in the same moment she writes the note, from that fixed list of four. There is no rulebook behind it that says what counts as what, so the tag is her own reading of the word, and now and then she files something where you would not have.

One correction happens after she writes: a note about your gear (a cage, a collar, cuffs, rope, a plug and the like) is filed as Personal even when she wrote it as an observation. Those facts should last like facts about you, not fade like a passing mood.

What the category changes

The category decides how strongly the nudge for recent notes applies when the app picks her notes for a message. An observation stops counting as recent within days, a preference within weeks, and a personal fact or a milestone barely fades at all within a year. Each category also has its own group in what she reads, so personal facts and milestones are not competing with observations for the same slots.

The category never deletes anything. As the section above says, a note stays until she or you remove it.

What you can change

You can delete a note and you can pin it. You cannot change its category. If a note carries the wrong tag, delete it and mention the fact again in chat; she will write it down fresh.

If you ever see the tag ASKE, that is not a note about you. It is a reminder she leaves herself that she already asked you about a subject, so she does not ask again, and it clears itself within a month.

Pinning a note

Pin a note in the Memory tab and it becomes a standing fact: it is in front of her on every message, whatever you just said, and she can neither delete nor rewrite it. Only you can, by unpinning or deleting it. Pinned notes sit at the top of the list with a gold border.

You can pin up to 10 notes per Domina. Past that, the app asks you to unpin one first.

A pinned note is also exempt from the two-year cap: a note nobody pinned is cleared two years after she wrote it, a pinned one stays for as long as you keep the pin.

What she remembers from chat

Inside an active chat she keeps the recent message history. The practical window is "this conversation". She does not silently splice in messages from another Domina's chat with you.

What she does NOT remember

• The contents of a conversation you erased. Reset chat & memories, at the bottom of the chat panel, wipes your whole history with that Domina in one go: every message, every note she holds about you, and her session records. It cannot be undone, and there is no way to clear the messages but keep her notes.
• Messages from a different Domina's chat. Each Domina has her own thread.
• On Free, anything from a Domina you switched away from. Switching the active Domina on the free tier clears the previous Domina's chat thread, session history, and memory continuity. Premium and Premium Plus keep each Domina's data independently, so switching back restores her recall. See Choose a Domina.
• Anything you set up and then turned off (e.g. an inventory item you removed) past the point where you removed it.
• Real-world events between sessions. If something important happened to you, mention it in your next message.

Nudging her recall

If she misses something you wanted her to remember, two things help:

1. Repeat it once, plainly. "Reminder: I'm not using the cuffs this week." She will integrate the note.
2. Update the source. If it is structural (a fetish you no longer enjoy, a toy you sold), change it in settings. That sticks.

Privacy footnote

If you have a PIN set, your chat messages are stored encrypted with a key derived from it, and nobody running MISTRIX can read them. The notes she keeps about you sit outside the PIN. See PIN and Privacy.