How She Listens¶
When you send a message in chat, your Domina does not read it in isolation. She reads it against everything the app already knows about you. Knowing what that covers is the single most useful thing for getting better sessions.
What she has, every message¶
| What she has | Where it comes from | Effect |
|---|---|---|
| Identity | Her name, tone, speech style, intensity, traits, specialties, current mood | Sets her voice |
| You | Your level, age, gender and anatomy if set | Sets the severity she calibrates to, and shapes how she refers to you |
| Interests | Your Fetish map ratings, plus what she has learned about you | Pool she proposes from |
| Hard limits | Your hard-limits list | Forbidden ground, every turn |
| Inventory | Toys, clothing, accessories you marked available | Items she can require |
| Goal and rules | Your long-term goal and your standing rules, from the Goal tab | Soft direction, plus rules she holds you to |
| Memory | The notes she has written about you, picked for what you just said | Continuity |
| Clock | Your device's local date, time and time zone, plus a stamp on every message you send | Lets her greet the right hour and tell a reply five minutes later from one three days later |
| This message | What you just typed | The fresh signal |
Two of those rows do more than they look like they do.
Your level is not decoration. She is told your level on the 1 to 10 scale and which band it sits in, and she is told to match the severity of what she demands to it. A level 9 subject gets asked for more than a level 2 one, in ordinary chat as much as in a session.
Your interests are not only what you ticked. She adjusts the pool as she learns, so a fetish you never rated can come into it and one you rated lightly can fall out. Your crosses and your hard limits are never touched by that. See Interest levels, and Goal and standing rules for the Goal tab.
What she does not have automatic access to:
- Your real-time mood unless you say it.
- Your location or your schedule, unless you mention them. She does know what time it is for you, so she can greet the hour, notice it is late, and answer if you ask her what day it is.
- The contents of older chats with other Dominas.
- Anything you removed from your inventory or interests.
What she pays attention to in your message¶
In order of weight:
- Direct asks. "Make it stricter." "Skip warm-up tonight." "Use the red cuffs."
- Mood and capacity signals. Tired, distracted, eager, anxious, short on time. She rebuilds the plan around them.
- Continuity references. "Like yesterday" or "the way you did at the end last time." She pulls memory.
- Specific items. Naming a toy by category or note text.
What gets ignored or down-weighted:
- Filler ("ok", "yeah", "sure") without anything else - she keeps the current plan as-is.
- Attempts to override hard limits. They never land.
- Attempts to make her break the medium (claim to see / hear / feel you in real time). She stays in directive voice.
Practical test¶
Send her a message describing the next ten minutes the way you would describe them to a partner. Then look at her reply. If something in the reply does not match, that gap is where you should add specificity next time.