Hard Limits Explained¶
A hard limit is the strongest "no" in MISTRIX. It overrides interest levels, mood, and any in-chat message you ever send. This page explains why and how to use the system well.
How they work¶
Whenever the Domina plans or writes something for you - a chat reply, a session and every directive in it, a routine, a one-off task, an answer to a photo you send - your current hard-limits list binds her as an absolute restriction: never mention, reference, or imply any of these. The same list also stops her from filing anything she remembers about one of those topics.
She gets that rule before she gets your message, and it outranks anything said in a scene, hers or yours. No clever message talks her past it.
Three later steps are written from words she has already produced under that restriction, rather than from the list itself: the portrait she sends you in chat, the summary at the end of a session, and an Expose post. Nothing new comes in at that point, which is why the practical effect holds.
What this means in practice¶
- Asking her to ignore a hard limit "just tonight" does not work.
- Telling her you changed your mind in chat does not work.
- Adding a synonym or euphemism for the limit does not work; the rule covers the topic, not just the words you happened to use.
- Switching to a different Domina does not work either; every Domina on your account sees the same hard limits.
If you want a hard limit removed, open You > Preferences > Fetish map and take the cross off that entry. The change applies immediately to all future sessions on all your Dominas.
What is on the list¶
The hard-limits list is drawn from the same curated catalogue as the fetish interest list. You cannot invent a hard limit out of free text (the same way you cannot invent an interest); you pick from the catalogue and mark it.
If something is missing from the catalogue that you would want to hard-limit, contact support - the catalogue evolves over time.
Limits beyond your list¶
Underneath your personal list there is a floor that applies to every account and that nobody can switch off. Anything sexual involving minors, and anything otherwise illegal, is refused. Emptying your hard limits does not unlock it, and neither does any setting in MISTRIX.
Your hard limits live on top of that floor. They cover the additional content categories that the curated catalogue lets you mark as off-limits for you personally.
How to keep the list useful¶
- Re-read it every couple of months. What felt edgy a year ago may be fine now. What felt fine may be a no now. The list is yours to curate.
- Add things that you would not enjoy as a surprise. Even if you would never opt in, marking them as hard limits is belt-and-braces protection.
- Subtract things you have genuinely changed your mind on. Keeping stale hard limits is fine, but it does narrow what she can plan for you.
Hard limits vs the safe word¶
Hard limits stop the Domina from ever bringing something up. The safe word stops the current scene. Both exist for a reason:
- Hard limits prevent the topic from appearing at all.
- Safe word handles surprise - the case where something happening now isn't working, regardless of whether the topic was permitted.
Use both. Curate the list. Tap the button.